Parents Want to Know 101: Relationship Goals

Wednesday, February 15, 2017

Relationship Goals

by Sharon Rose

It's Valentine Week! It's a great time to work on RELATIONSHIP GOALS. Parents, keep your relationship fresh and alive! Love is a living and breathing feeling, and should be handled tenderly, and never taken for granted. To maintain and grow your love in a relationship, each partner must actively express love. Speak up! Don't be shy! Take time for romance! Love is a strong, beautiful, emotional feeling that is alive, grows, and needs care and attention to thrive. If not, the bond you share will, likely, begin to fade. The old adage that love is like a garden is true. You must give it care and attention for it to keep its vibrance, and grow. Create and design your love, just as an architect would design the lines of a beautifully structured building. For both, their stability, attractiveness, and charm can live forever.

You should have thoughtful and realistic expectations of your relationship. Each partner should benefit, in positive ways, from being in the relationship. The primary benefit of the relationship is to receive and give love, affection, and to support each other in good times, and through challenges. As you seek to achieve your goals in the relationship, especially those which benefit the family as a whole, your love relationship should rise to being a partnership for a bright and successful future. If you want a long-lasting, successful relationship, make a commitment to your partner’s emotional well-being, even when you feel it’s not easy. This means being affectionate towards your partner through the good and the bad, when it’s most needed, and when it is least expected. Allowing your garden of love to lay stagnate through the rough patches, that will come, will only cause unwanted weedy feelings to crop up. Embrace these times as the learning experiences of life, that they most often are, and embrace each other with hugs and kisses during these times. This is what will make your relationship strong, potent, and lasting.

Keep the romance alive in your relationship! Both partners, from time to time, can plan something romantic, if no more than, a candle-lit dinner at home. However, it would be so special to get creative: a trip to the spa for a couple’s massage: a horse drawn carriage ride in the evening; a moonlight picnic on the beach with a favorite wine, and don't forget the blanket; weekend trip to a cabin in the mountains; a dip in a sauna; and enjoy a beautiful sunrise together. I’m sure you can think of more! A simple hug and kiss at the door to say good-bye for the day, and again, hello, when you return, can be a romantic ritual that each partner can look forward to. Enjoy each other and cherish the happiness your relationship is meant to bring. Enjoy being in-love, forever!!