Tuesday, September 4, 2018

The Illinois Commitment: For Illinois College Bound Students, Fall 2019

By Sharon Rose


      FREE TUITION - College bound students and their parents are always seeking scholarships and other various means of financing a college education.  A college education has become more expensive each year.  So, here is important and welcome information for students and their parents who reside in the state of Illinois.  A new program called, Illinois Commitment, was recently introduced by the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign.  The university will offer FREE TUITION  to qualifying students.  Students whose combined household income is $61,000 or less can qualify for free tuition starting fall, 2019.  The university’s website states, a student qualifies for free tuition if they meet the following criteria:

1. They are an Illinois resident (parents listed on FAFSA must also be residents)
2. Their family income is $61,000 or less
3. Their family’s assets are less than $50,000
4. They are admitted as a new freshman or transfer student
5. They are under the age of 24


      This is a great opportunity that will create a brighter future for the students of Illinois.  
*For more information please visit: https://admissions.illinois.edu/commitment.




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Sunday, July 29, 2018

When to Start Teaching Children to Pray

By Sharon Rose



      Children can start learning to pray even before they learn to speak in coherent sentences. Proverbs 22:6 says: "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it." You can start by teaching a very young child to make prayer hands and saying the words of the prayer for them.  In doing so, for children as young as 12 months, (or when the child starts eating at a feeding table) you are building and reinforcing prayer as a good habit.  Once your child learns language and begins to speak, he will learn various prayers through listening to the repetition of them, for example: in the morning, at mealtime, and at bedtime.





      Children love rhyming phrases and will enjoy learning prayers that rhyme.  So, start by teaching prayers that rhyme or have poetic rhythm.  Most children learn these quickly. Your child will come to understand that praying is a part of his family's daily schedule by seeing you pray at certain times of the day.  Have children to understand that God is our helper who loves us and that praying is having a conversation with God.  Keep it simple.





Copyright - When to Start Teaching Children to Pray, Sharon Rose, Parents Want to Know 101, July 29, 2018.  All rights reserved.


Monday, July 16, 2018

6 Dinner Conversation Starters

By Sharon Rose



        Dinner conversation starters can help make eating together at the table a tradition in your household.  Table boredom, OUT!  There is promising news for strengthening family bonds, that studies show most families eat dinner at home most nights.  But I have found no clear studies as to what percentage of families are actually sitting down at the table, together, to share a meal.  Often times, TV shows and social media are a distraction, with family members scattered in various rooms at mealtime.  With this valuable old tradition, this quality time will not only strengthen relationships, but improve family nutrition.  Parents are right there to encourage children to make good food choices at the table.  Parents and children can also find a comfort level in communicating with one another.  It's a great time to find out more about one another, from how your day went, to what your dreams are.  The family will be happier and healthier!  Here is our Dinner Conversation Starter List.  Have your questions ready and add your own questions to the list.  Personalize it!  Make it fun! 



Trivia Questions:

1.   On what date was the Declaration of Independence (U.S.A.) signed?
      Answer: July 4, 1776

2.   What city is the Golden Gate Bridge located?
      Answer:  San Francisco

3.   Name a musical group, past or present, made up of family members only.
Answer: The Jackson 5, DeBarge, BeBe & CeCe Winan, Bee Gees, The Osmonds, Von Trapp Family, The Carpenters,  Ashford & Simpson, The Staple Singers, The Everly Brothers, Gladys Knight & The Pips, LMFAO, The Pointer Sisters, Sister Sledge, The Ronettes, The Isley Brothers, Hanson Band, The Jonas Brothers, and more.




Choices Questions: 

4.  Do you prefer dogs or cats?

5.   What genre movies or TV do you prefer: dramas, comedy, or adventure and action? 

6.   What is your dream career?  





Copyright, Family Dinner Conversation Starters, Sharon Rose, Parents Want to Know 101, July 16, 2018.     




Sunday, June 17, 2018

Important Role of 'Dad' in a Child's Life

By Sharon Rose



      In his lifetime, any man can be capable of fathering a child, but what role in his child's life will cause that man to become a Dad.  How special to be called, Dad.  Let's look at the important role a Dad has in a child's life.

 Children benefit emotionally and psychologically from the presence of an involved father, who fill the role of a Dad.  Dads are so special!  From birth, children of involved Dads are more likely to be emotionally secure, confident to explore their environment, and create more healthy social relationships with peers, as they grow into adolescence and young adulthood. They are also, less likely to get into trouble at home, school, or in the community. Babies who get a lot of affection and playful interaction from their Dads feel more secure. A Dad's playfulness with his children is more stimulating than the kind of playful activity mothers present.  Rough housing with Dad can teach children how to react to aggressive impulses and physical contact without losing control of their emotions.  Dads more so, encourage independence and a lack of fear of the world outside the home.  Our Dads also encourage achievement and competition, while mothers are more likely to stress nurturing, both of which are important. The balance between the two is needed.  A study of school-aged children found that children with involved Dads are less likely to experience depression, drug abuse, or display disruptive or delinquent behavior. Dads hold an important role in benefiting a child’s growth, development, and future that cannot, likely, be filled by anyone else. We are not saying that there are no children who did not have the benefit of having a Dad present in their lives, who do not succeed; there are.  However, they can give testament to the rough road they and their mothers traveled to get there. 




      Another important role of Dad to his children is his behavior that is modeled when the children can observe a positive relationship between Mom and Dad.  Children learn so much more from parents as role models than they do from what the parents say.  When a son sees Dad showing respect to Mom, he learns from this modeling, how to treat the women in his.  A daughter gains self-esteem, as a developing young woman should, and an expectation of how she should be treated by men in her life.  This learning experience will carry over into their adolescence and adulthood. 




Happy Father's Day to all our Dads!!  You play an important role in the lives of our children and in our families, and we celebrate you on this very special day!



Copyright, Important Role of 'Dad' in a Child's Life, Sharon Rose, Parents Want to Know 101, June 17, 2018.  All rights reserved.


Tuesday, June 12, 2018

Room Sharing with Your Newborn

By Sharon Rose




      
       Before the birth of my first baby, room sharing with my newborn was something I had decided to do.  As a gift, my mother gave me a lovely, white, straw bassinet with white lining with ruffles that hung over the sides, to sit by my bed.  Although, I had set up a beautiful nursery with baby bed, mobile, changing station, wall decor, and curtains, I felt my baby would be more safe close to me during these early months.  The nursery only lacked the rocking chair that I always wanted to soothe and rock my baby to sleep.  The nursery and rocking chair could wait for several months, for the sake of safety.  

      
      The American Academy of Pediatrics terms room sharing, with your newborn as sharing a room and giving your newborn their own sleeping space.  The AAP recommends room sharing at least 6 months and up to 12 months being the best option.  According to the AAP safe sleep guidelines, this sleep space should have a flat, firm surface, and a tight fitting sheet.  My husband and I did room sharing with our first baby for the first 8 months.  We did room sharing with our next two babies until they were 12 months old.  We put safety first.  Various issues like: frequent waking during the night for feeding, colic, waking due to teething and allergy illnesses made this a good fit for us.  Use your own judgement and don’t rush it.  Studies have shown that room sharing can reduce your baby’s risk of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) by up to 50%.  
      

      



      Good sleeping options to set up in your bedroom for your baby can be a bassinet or a pack and play.  The prices of each can vary from low to high.  A bassinet can have up to a 20 pounds limit, whereas, a pack and play can have up to a 28 pounds limit and a height limit of 35 inches.  You can decide what will work best for you and your baby.  Now you may be wondering, what should you do if you are room sharing and your baby outgrows the bassinet and pack and play.  I can tell you what we did.  We moved the larger baby bed into our bedroom, temporarily, and put the bassinet away.  If you have the space in your bedroom, this is a good option until you feel it is safe for your baby to be further away from you.  Using a baby monitor can be another option.  I want you to know that our beautiful baby nursery received plenty of use. 



      Following AAP safe sleeping guidelines for baby is very important for baby's safety.  





Copyright, Room Sharing with Your Newborn, Sharon Rose, Parents Want to Know 101, June 12, 2018.  All rights reserved.

Tuesday, June 5, 2018

Travel Tips for the Well-Traveled Family, Part 5: Traveling with Children

By Sharon Rose




      Summer vacation time is here!  Families with children will travel during this time to visit family, friends, and to festive entertainment venues.  Since it is the most challenging, we are going to talk traveling on an airplane with children. I have heard some travel advisers strongly suggest traveling with children at nighttime so they will sleep and therefore not be a problem. I believe children should have the opportunity to travel anywhere and be wide awake so they can learn through the experience.  The best way for children to learn is through exposure to the world they live in. Issues that come up while traveling with children, such as, flight delays, fidgety or boisterous behavior, cabin pressure, or a fellow passenger that has a low tolerance for children can be managed.  Let’s get started sorting it out.





Safety

      A few days before you depart for vacation, take some time to go over basic safety rules and strategies with your kids, some of which may already be in place in your home.  A good way to approach this would be to remind them that these are rules that they are already familiar with because many are the same rules we have at home. The reminder is needed; after-all, the excitement of new places and experiences can be overwhelming, and curiosity may cause kids to set their rules aside. Go over home phone number, address, and the proper use of the 911 emergency number. Since you are away from home it is vital that your child memorize your cell phone number, as well. There is also the option of creating a safety card, and have your child keep it with him, for example, in his pocket. The card should have all vital information on it, to include, the name of the hotel where you are staying, your cell phone number, and your first name.  If you don't mind writing on your child you can write your phone number on your child's arm. There is even a company that has introduced a temporary tatoos for children with a space for the parent's phone number.  Your child would not be able to loose this, as with a card.  Remind young ones of what to do if they get separated from you, who they can trust and about safety in numbers. Also, this is a good time to remind them of stranger-danger that you have, most likely, gone over many times.  To further insure the safety of your children, if two parents are traveling with more than one child, before you leave home choose teams, with each parent as a team captain.  Have each parent be responsible for their team.  Divide the responsibility up.  Making it a game gets the trip off to a fun start. 




Young, First-Time Fliers 


      Prepare children who are first-time fliers for what it is like going through the security checkpoint at the airport. Everyone, including the children, should wear shoes that are easy to take on and off.  Removing your shoes is just one of the strict safety measures in place at airports for all passengers, who are required to go through a security check-point.  Role play with your child the way in which travelers are required to go through the metal checkpoint door frame, the way it may "buzz," and why, how the wand is used to wave over the travelers body, and a "touching" body check done by the security agents.  Try to put your child at ease.  Although much of the extra security check actions may not happen, you would want to prepare your child just in case it does.  TSA officers will work with parents to resolve any alarms at the checkpoint. TSA has modified screening procedures for children 12 and under that reduces the likelihood of a pat-down.  Taking the fear out of traveling for your child will make for a traveling experience filled with fun from beginning to end.  Get all the current facts of going through the security checkpoint beforehand, in order to share them with your child. Once you board the plane, secure your child’s seat-belt and prepare to help him have an enjoyable flight.  Make it fun! 

Where's the Entertainment?

     There may be in-flight entertainment, but don't rely on it alone.  Many larger airlines have in-flight entertainment such as films, music, and even children's channels.  However, there are times when it might be broken or not appropriate for your child’s age group.  Also, wearing the headphones might irritate your child, in some way, because they are sized for adults.  Best bet, bring your own assortment of entertaining activities for your child.  Here are some suggestions:

1.   Portable video game consoles.
2.   Tablet, or computer to play music, movies, or audio books.
3.   Coloring books, activity books, blank drawing paper. Don’t forget the pencils and crayons!
4.   Stickers - These are useful for making designs on blank pages while drawing.
5.   Magnetic games - Buy the travel-size game kits.
6.   Books to read together.
7.   Flash-cards: ABCs, Math, Reading, Shapes.
8.   Kid's puzzle books - Sudoku, crosswords, find-a-word, mad-libs, jokes, etc. (One of my favorites.)
9. Print free from internet - games to play on paper, such as tic-tac-toe, mazes or dot-to-dots. There are many        print-outs available on kids' websites.
10. A favorite stuffed animal or doll.

      Don’t forget to bring along some snacks in your carry-on bag.  Choose foods that are not packed with sugar and won’t melt or crumble apart and make a mess.  Licorice, apples, pretzels, cereal, and granola bars are good options. Try preparing these snacks in unique ways to keep it fun. Young kids will love cereal, like Cheerios or Fruit Loops, strung onto yarn to form an edible necklace.  You can also make up your own bags of trail mix with your child’s favorite combo'.





      Reward your child for good behavior on the plane.  Surprise and reward your child for his patience on long journeys. Wrap up a new toy and present him with it after he has proven that he has been well-behaved enough. Nothing big or expensive; check the dollar store in your area.  He will feel that you appreciate his cooperation.

      To make entertainment more educational, contact the tourism board or local chamber of commerce of your destination before leaving for your trip.  Request travel brochures and tourist information. Arrange these in a folder for ease of viewing during the flight. Let the kids flip through the fliers and magazines while in flight to further prepare them and boost their enthusiasm.  This let's the kids become vacation planners right along with you, when age appropriate. 

     A small challenge of flying with children is cabin pressure.  Rapid changes in cabin pressure can make little ears pop, so keep drinks, baby bottle, or pacifiers available for take-offs and landings (sucking helps reduce ear sensitivity). If your child is old enough to chew gum, try that. Chewing gum to combat the uncomfortable, sometimes painful feeling of cabin pressure is something that helps me. 

      Traveling by air presents other unique challenges for parents with young children.  Kids under age two are not required by law to be restrained on airplanes, so it's up to every parent to decide how to travel.  If you decide to ride with baby on your lap, consider a flight vest that secures your child to your lap belt. These vests are not designed for use during takeoff and landing, but for cruising, when turbulence most often occurs.  If your child's small size does not allow the seat belt to fit properly, you can use a child safety harness to secure your child in the seat.  *Check with the airline to be sure of what harnesses are allowed.  The Federal Aviation Administration recommends that small children be seated in a car seat. However, this is not the law as in traveling in a car. The only way to guarantee that your child can use a car seat is to purchase a ticket. Some airlines offer discounted fares for kids under two. If that isn't a possibility, select a non-peak flight time that's more likely to have empty seats.



      *Car seats manufactured in the United States after February 26, 1985 must be US FMVSS #213 or FAA certified, with a red sticker labeled, “This restraint is certified for us in Motor Vehicles and Aircraft,” and “This child restraint system conforms to all applicable Federal motor vehicle safety standards.”  This includes booster seats and any types of harnesses.

      For parents with infants, each time that you take a trip on an airplane, and for various airlines that you use, make a call to customer service to verify if a carry-on bag with diaper and feeding needs will be counted as an extra bag.  Baby's needs may have to be incorporated into your carry-on, if needed.


      Finally, always ask questions when in doubt.  You’re ready for take off!  Enjoy your flight!





*See Travel Tips for the Well-Traveled Family, Parts 1, 2, 3, and 4 on our blog.  Use our search engine for help.





Copyright,  Revised, Travel Tips for the Well-Traveled Family, Part 5: Traveling with Children, Sharon Rose, Parents Want to Know 101, June 5, 2018.  All rights reserved.