Tuesday, June 12, 2018

Room Sharing with Your Newborn

By Sharon Rose




      
       Before the birth of my first baby, room sharing with my newborn was something I had decided to do.  As a gift, my mother gave me a lovely, white, straw bassinet with white lining with ruffles that hung over the sides, to sit by my bed.  Although, I had set up a beautiful nursery with baby bed, mobile, changing station, wall decor, and curtains, I felt my baby would be more safe close to me during these early months.  The nursery only lacked the rocking chair that I always wanted to soothe and rock my baby to sleep.  The nursery and rocking chair could wait for several months, for the sake of safety.  

      
      The American Academy of Pediatrics terms room sharing, with your newborn as sharing a room and giving your newborn their own sleeping space.  The AAP recommends room sharing at least 6 months and up to 12 months being the best option.  According to the AAP safe sleep guidelines, this sleep space should have a flat, firm surface, and a tight fitting sheet.  My husband and I did room sharing with our first baby for the first 8 months.  We did room sharing with our next two babies until they were 12 months old.  We put safety first.  Various issues like: frequent waking during the night for feeding, colic, waking due to teething and allergy illnesses made this a good fit for us.  Use your own judgement and don’t rush it.  Studies have shown that room sharing can reduce your baby’s risk of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) by up to 50%.  
      

      



      Good sleeping options to set up in your bedroom for your baby can be a bassinet or a pack and play.  The prices of each can vary from low to high.  A bassinet can have up to a 20 pounds limit, whereas, a pack and play can have up to a 28 pounds limit and a height limit of 35 inches.  You can decide what will work best for you and your baby.  Now you may be wondering, what should you do if you are room sharing and your baby outgrows the bassinet and pack and play.  I can tell you what we did.  We moved the larger baby bed into our bedroom, temporarily, and put the bassinet away.  If you have the space in your bedroom, this is a good option until you feel it is safe for your baby to be further away from you.  Using a baby monitor can be another option.  I want you to know that our beautiful baby nursery received plenty of use. 



      Following AAP safe sleeping guidelines for baby is very important for baby's safety.  





Copyright, Room Sharing with Your Newborn, Sharon Rose, Parents Want to Know 101, June 12, 2018.  All rights reserved.

Tuesday, June 5, 2018

Travel Tips for the Well-Traveled Family, Part 5: Traveling with Children

By Sharon Rose




      Summer vacation time is here!  Families with children will travel during this time to visit family, friends, and to festive entertainment venues.  Since it is the most challenging, we are going to talk traveling on an airplane with children. I have heard some travel advisers strongly suggest traveling with children at nighttime so they will sleep and therefore not be a problem. I believe children should have the opportunity to travel anywhere and be wide awake so they can learn through the experience.  The best way for children to learn is through exposure to the world they live in. Issues that come up while traveling with children, such as, flight delays, fidgety or boisterous behavior, cabin pressure, or a fellow passenger that has a low tolerance for children can be managed.  Let’s get started sorting it out.





Safety

      A few days before you depart for vacation, take some time to go over basic safety rules and strategies with your kids, some of which may already be in place in your home.  A good way to approach this would be to remind them that these are rules that they are already familiar with because many are the same rules we have at home. The reminder is needed; after-all, the excitement of new places and experiences can be overwhelming, and curiosity may cause kids to set their rules aside. Go over home phone number, address, and the proper use of the 911 emergency number. Since you are away from home it is vital that your child memorize your cell phone number, as well. There is also the option of creating a safety card, and have your child keep it with him, for example, in his pocket. The card should have all vital information on it, to include, the name of the hotel where you are staying, your cell phone number, and your first name.  If you don't mind writing on your child you can write your phone number on your child's arm. There is even a company that has introduced a temporary tatoos for children with a space for the parent's phone number.  Your child would not be able to loose this, as with a card.  Remind young ones of what to do if they get separated from you, who they can trust and about safety in numbers. Also, this is a good time to remind them of stranger-danger that you have, most likely, gone over many times.  To further insure the safety of your children, if two parents are traveling with more than one child, before you leave home choose teams, with each parent as a team captain.  Have each parent be responsible for their team.  Divide the responsibility up.  Making it a game gets the trip off to a fun start. 




Young, First-Time Fliers 


      Prepare children who are first-time fliers for what it is like going through the security checkpoint at the airport. Everyone, including the children, should wear shoes that are easy to take on and off.  Removing your shoes is just one of the strict safety measures in place at airports for all passengers, who are required to go through a security check-point.  Role play with your child the way in which travelers are required to go through the metal checkpoint door frame, the way it may "buzz," and why, how the wand is used to wave over the travelers body, and a "touching" body check done by the security agents.  Try to put your child at ease.  Although much of the extra security check actions may not happen, you would want to prepare your child just in case it does.  TSA officers will work with parents to resolve any alarms at the checkpoint. TSA has modified screening procedures for children 12 and under that reduces the likelihood of a pat-down.  Taking the fear out of traveling for your child will make for a traveling experience filled with fun from beginning to end.  Get all the current facts of going through the security checkpoint beforehand, in order to share them with your child. Once you board the plane, secure your child’s seat-belt and prepare to help him have an enjoyable flight.  Make it fun! 

Where's the Entertainment?

     There may be in-flight entertainment, but don't rely on it alone.  Many larger airlines have in-flight entertainment such as films, music, and even children's channels.  However, there are times when it might be broken or not appropriate for your child’s age group.  Also, wearing the headphones might irritate your child, in some way, because they are sized for adults.  Best bet, bring your own assortment of entertaining activities for your child.  Here are some suggestions:

1.   Portable video game consoles.
2.   Tablet, or computer to play music, movies, or audio books.
3.   Coloring books, activity books, blank drawing paper. Don’t forget the pencils and crayons!
4.   Stickers - These are useful for making designs on blank pages while drawing.
5.   Magnetic games - Buy the travel-size game kits.
6.   Books to read together.
7.   Flash-cards: ABCs, Math, Reading, Shapes.
8.   Kid's puzzle books - Sudoku, crosswords, find-a-word, mad-libs, jokes, etc. (One of my favorites.)
9. Print free from internet - games to play on paper, such as tic-tac-toe, mazes or dot-to-dots. There are many        print-outs available on kids' websites.
10. A favorite stuffed animal or doll.

      Don’t forget to bring along some snacks in your carry-on bag.  Choose foods that are not packed with sugar and won’t melt or crumble apart and make a mess.  Licorice, apples, pretzels, cereal, and granola bars are good options. Try preparing these snacks in unique ways to keep it fun. Young kids will love cereal, like Cheerios or Fruit Loops, strung onto yarn to form an edible necklace.  You can also make up your own bags of trail mix with your child’s favorite combo'.





      Reward your child for good behavior on the plane.  Surprise and reward your child for his patience on long journeys. Wrap up a new toy and present him with it after he has proven that he has been well-behaved enough. Nothing big or expensive; check the dollar store in your area.  He will feel that you appreciate his cooperation.

      To make entertainment more educational, contact the tourism board or local chamber of commerce of your destination before leaving for your trip.  Request travel brochures and tourist information. Arrange these in a folder for ease of viewing during the flight. Let the kids flip through the fliers and magazines while in flight to further prepare them and boost their enthusiasm.  This let's the kids become vacation planners right along with you, when age appropriate. 

     A small challenge of flying with children is cabin pressure.  Rapid changes in cabin pressure can make little ears pop, so keep drinks, baby bottle, or pacifiers available for take-offs and landings (sucking helps reduce ear sensitivity). If your child is old enough to chew gum, try that. Chewing gum to combat the uncomfortable, sometimes painful feeling of cabin pressure is something that helps me. 

      Traveling by air presents other unique challenges for parents with young children.  Kids under age two are not required by law to be restrained on airplanes, so it's up to every parent to decide how to travel.  If you decide to ride with baby on your lap, consider a flight vest that secures your child to your lap belt. These vests are not designed for use during takeoff and landing, but for cruising, when turbulence most often occurs.  If your child's small size does not allow the seat belt to fit properly, you can use a child safety harness to secure your child in the seat.  *Check with the airline to be sure of what harnesses are allowed.  The Federal Aviation Administration recommends that small children be seated in a car seat. However, this is not the law as in traveling in a car. The only way to guarantee that your child can use a car seat is to purchase a ticket. Some airlines offer discounted fares for kids under two. If that isn't a possibility, select a non-peak flight time that's more likely to have empty seats.



      *Car seats manufactured in the United States after February 26, 1985 must be US FMVSS #213 or FAA certified, with a red sticker labeled, “This restraint is certified for us in Motor Vehicles and Aircraft,” and “This child restraint system conforms to all applicable Federal motor vehicle safety standards.”  This includes booster seats and any types of harnesses.

      For parents with infants, each time that you take a trip on an airplane, and for various airlines that you use, make a call to customer service to verify if a carry-on bag with diaper and feeding needs will be counted as an extra bag.  Baby's needs may have to be incorporated into your carry-on, if needed.


      Finally, always ask questions when in doubt.  You’re ready for take off!  Enjoy your flight!





*See Travel Tips for the Well-Traveled Family, Parts 1, 2, 3, and 4 on our blog.  Use our search engine for help.





Copyright,  Revised, Travel Tips for the Well-Traveled Family, Part 5: Traveling with Children, Sharon Rose, Parents Want to Know 101, June 5, 2018.  All rights reserved.



Wednesday, May 2, 2018

Protect Your Child from Cyber Bullying

By Sharon Rose


      Has your Tween or teen joined Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or some other social media site?  If the answer is yes, then they are venerable to cyber bullying. Cyber bullying is the latest trend in bullying and is having a damaging and sometimes deadly effect on our youth. Cyber bullying is bullying that takes place over the internet with a technological device, such as a cell phone, computer, or tablet. It has shown a steady increase with the rise of technological use by young people and their use of it at younger and younger ages. The internet has become a big part of the social lives of many adolescents and teens. It has taken the place of watching TV, telephone chats, exercise, and is a distraction from homework. Among adolescents and teens, more than 1 in 3 has experienced cyber threats over the internet. Over half of adolescents and teens using the internet have been bullied online or bullied others. Cyber bullying, of all the types of bullying, can be the hardest to detect because it can be done anonymously. 




      Parents must be especially vigilant in supervising their children’s use of the computer, cell phone, or tablet, all of which can access the internet. If they are old enough to have Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or any other social media accounts, parents should have the passwords to these accounts and check them regularly. Your child should be made aware that, as a parent, this is a part of how you protect them.




      Inform your Tween or teen that social media accounts have rules.  For example, Twitter has a Hateful Conduct Policy. This policy states that users can report posts that violate the rules of Twitter’s service. These rules include: No promoting violence; threatening or attacking other people; or inciting harm based on a person’s race, ethnicity, national origin, sexual orientation, gender, gender identity, religious affiliation, age, disability, or disease. Parents should also be sure that their child has shown the proper maturity, independent skills, and responsibility to have a social media account before allowing it.  Don’t be swayed by the age old cliché used by adolescents and teens to persuade parents, All my friends are doing it.








Copyright, Protect Your Child from Cyber Bullying, Sharon Rose, Parents Want to Know 101, May 2, 2018.  All rights reserved.

Monday, April 16, 2018

Outdoor Playdates for Toddlers

By Sharon Rose




      Outdoor playdates hold some of the best learning experiences and are perfect for your toddler to release some energy.  The spring weather will give you lots of opportunities for outdoor play.  Toddlers need lots of large muscle exercise.  Getting outdoors is a great way for parents to get some exercise too.  If your backyard is not equipped with all you need, find a city park you like.  For both spots, you and parents you partner with can create experiences with sandbox, wagon rides, bike rides, slides, and swings.  Swinging for children is gleeful!  You can expect to hear the high pitched sound of Whee!!!  It is a play activity that allows your child to overcome fear to enjoy play and to try many other new experiences.  This is so necessary to their growth and development.  For most children, to go up in the air in a swing will become a favorite play activity.  It may be scary at first, so expect this. Acknowledge to your child that it is only natural for them to feel this way.  Soothingly, talk your child through it, that you will keep them safe.  For safety, a child aged 1 to 3 years old should only use an outdoor swing that has a seat with a back to it.  Children younger than 1 year old are more safe in an indoor baby swing that you can use outdoors when weather permits. 


Another fun learning activity is gardening. You can do gardening year round.  Depending on the season, use fresh or pre-made paper flowers, or plant beans and seeds in a cup or small clay planter.  An archaeological dig for fossils, in a sandbox, with pre-made fossils presents an adventurous learning possibility, as well. Talk to your 3 or 4 year old about what fossils and an archaeologist are.  Most boys and girls this age are fascinated by dinosaurs, though some may be a little frightened at first.  Boys especially will love dinosaur play early on.  Parents will find that dinosaurs are everywhere in the world of child-play.  You will enjoy sharing playdates with your toddler and a few friends.  There may be some tears with new experiences, but the laughter will come, making great memories for your child and for you.  




You may have a future archaeologist!  Interactive play in your backyard with sand and play dinosaur bones can be lots of fun for your toddler.  They love to dig in the dirt to see what they can discover.




With your help, your toddler will enjoy watering plants in your garden with a watering can. 
When your toddler does gardening this is also an opportunity to play in the dirt.  Playing
 in dirt will allow them to learn more about nature.  "Hey Mom!  Time for me to wash my hands!"




Copyright, Outdoor Playdates for Toddlers, Sharon Rose, Parents Want to Know 101, April 16, 2018.  All rights reserved.

Sunday, April 15, 2018

7 Day Series, Day 7: Resources and References for ASD Parents and Children

By Sharon Rose




      Autism awareness means a brighter future for many of our children.  On the last day of our series, Parent's Guide to Autism Spectrum Disorder, we are going to introduce Day 7: Resources and References for ASD Parents and Children.

Resources:

List of International Autism Organizations, including USA, Canada, U.K., Australia, France, New Zealand, Bangladesh, India, and all around the world: https://www.autismspeaks.org/what-autism/world-autism-awareness-day/international-autism-organizations

Resource Guide for Services USA (Select your state.): https://www.autismspeaks.org/family-services/resource-guide

The U.K. National Autistic Society Services: http://www.autism.org.uk/services/work.aspx


Book Resources:

Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew

One of Us: A Family's Life with Autism

Look Me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger's


      As we end our 7 Day Series: Parent's Guide to Autism Spectrum Disorder, we want to leave you with the thought that autism awareness and acceptance means a brighter future for our children.  It takes a village! 





Copyright, 7 Day Series, Day 7: Resources and References for ASD Parents and Children, Sharon Rose, Parent's Want to Know 101, April 15, 2018.  All rights reserved.